Category: relationships

  • the five stages of jigsaw puzzling

    the five stages of jigsaw puzzling

    James and I have survived five months of sheltering in place and spending 24 hours a day together, minus trips to the grocery store and solo hikes. But will our relationship survive attempting to complete a 1,000-piece jigsaw puzzle over a long weekend? Let’s see!

  • we need to talk about a pressing issue

    Gas. Gut punching, your butthole is Alcatraz and it wants to escape on a handmade raft, hurdy gurdy gas that puts you in a panic because you live in a small house with another human being. A person with whom you still hope to share a little mystery in life. Someone you don’t have an interest in subjecting […]

  • like flies on the same turd

    In my ongoing search to find some people for us to drink wine with ’round these parts, I was thinking that maybe I would go to the weekly poetry slam in Monterey (they encourage all sorts of performance, not just poetry). You know, meet some other writers. Maybe we’d have something in common. I disliked them […]

  • rituals

    Rituals are important. They help mark the meaningful moments in life, and they’re a good barometer of the passage of time. New Year’s = new beginnings. The 4th of July = summertime. Halloween = the start of the holiday season. Rituals help break the year into phases. They give us the chance to look forward […]

  • your mileage may vary

    All these horrible stories about bullies and kids committing suicide this past week made me think back to the days when I was in the emotional, hormone-laden whirlpool that are the pre-teen/teen years. I remember back in junior high when a guy in my grade or maybe the next one up kept playing grab-ass with […]

  • seven year bitch (not really)

    As of this weekend, James and I have been together for seven years. That’s a long time. To celebrate, we went out to dinner. A foursome sat down at the table next to us, and one of the men proudly proclaimed to have “both Aspergers and ADHD.” He appeared to be with his mother. The […]

  • youth

    I worked remotely today (the wave of the future), which meant I spent the first part of the day working from home in my pajamas. For the last couple hours of work, I’ve been sitting at Onion Creek. I’m meeting people here for happy hour, so it made sense to get here early and knock […]

  • a poll

    There’s a new addition to my blog – see the poll in the upper right corner. I’m curious about something. When your fringe “friends” on facebook – the people you aren’t actually having a relationship with at the present time (maybe you used to work with them or went to school with them or served […]

  • the zoo

    Some of my fondest memories as a kid are our trips to the zoo, which culminated in an Antone’s poorboy by the duck pond. Antone’s ain’t what it used to be since the family sold the business, and the zoo has changed a lot too. In the case of the latter, the change has been […]